In Defense of the Diaperless

Split pants: We've all seen them and perhaps even scoffed at them – but I'm writing this in defense of what I've concluded is one of the most sensible practices in Chinese child rearing.

Yes, I realize that to most Westerners, the sight of a three-year-old running around in what is essentially a pair of ass-less cotton chaps can be a bit jarring; but there is a distinct reason and method to the madness.

It all boils down to perception: I submit that when it comes to their babies, local parents have a more “organic” (and I don’t mean that in the “fertilizer-free” sense) notion of that most basic of human functions than us Westerners – after all, what comes out is “perfectly natural” stuff that is as harmless as the drool trailing from their little mouths.

Back in the West, we've been conditioned to strive for all things sanitary – and for good reason, of course. Here in China, this notion obviously exists as well, but it seems that somewhat different standards apply when it comes to baby pee and poo.

You may well have observed that it is perfectly acceptable for local ayis and moms to “water*” their babies on sidewalks, over gutters and even in the aisles of supermarkets across the city. To the unaccustomed eye this seems comical at the very least and downright disturbing for the hygiene obsessed.

I, too, was once consistently bemused at such sights (“The horror! How could they let their little ones just go any which where like that?”), but the last 18 months have compelled me to see things in a different light.

1.Diapers are friggin' expensive (RMB 118.5 for a pack of 75 Huggies on taobao.com)
2.Diapers are not environmentally friendly – we’ve all heard the stories of all those landfills filled with the diapers
3.Going "au naturel" (or in butt-less pants) prevents rashes in the summer and promotes gynecological health in little girls
4.Chinese babies tend to get potty trained earlier because of the practice of "ba" –ing them(in Chinese, 把, see the “watering” babies bit above)
5.Diapers are friggin' expensive

This is not to say that I’m anti-diaper. Although my wife and ayi can "ba" our baby with the best of them, we still consistently rely on diapers when we put Marianne to bed at night or take her out and about. But like most local parents, we do make an effort to avoid using diapers when we can – a practice that annoyed me at first, but I’ve come to accept and even respect. Call me a convert.

As a final comment, I add this case in point: Before we left for Shanghai, Marianne was well on her way to being potty trained**, regularly giving us at least a few seconds head’s up anytime she needed to go ("Niao niao!" 尿尿! – "Pee pee!" – she always yells at that pivotal moment). But after a few diaper filled days on the road and on the plane, she’s regressed somewhat and for the past few days has foregone the automatic alert in lieu of just simply letting loose. Time will tell how long it takes her to get back on track.

*Facilitated, of course, by the ubiquitous split pants.
**We also have one of those Combi porta-potty trainers – it sits in a box collecting dust in the corner of her nursery.

Re: In Defense of the Diaperless

I recently took my son to play in an indoor play area (Wangjing Mall) where two local children were playing in split pants. Both of them just peed in the sand and I am afraid I see nothing hygenic about that! The children were too young to know what they were doing and wait. I obviously took my son out straight away and we won't be going back!
I chose to use nappies for my son and not bow to pressure to toilet train him early. He never suffered with nappy rash as he was changed regularly. I toilet trained him two weeks ago (at 2 years and 7 months) and it took 2 days only. He knows when he needs to go and will use the potty himself or ask to use our portable potty if we are out.
I have been in China over five years and I am afraid I will never find defecating in public places acceptable!


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I'm not sure I will ever get used to this sight. Occasionally, the boys will have their penises dangling on the floor or scraping across the pavement as they play on the ground. How can that be sanitary and safe, especially in an environment like Beijing?


Re: In Defense of the Diaperless

And so the great debate continues ...

All kidding aside - yes, I should add a caveat that not wearing a diaper should not give you free license to let your kids pee and poop anywhere they please, particularly in public places as you point out, Ali - that is indeed not hygenic and remains the biggest downside to the "au naturel" approach. For this reason, we always carry diapers with us.

What I was referring to was a better hygenic situation for the kid wearing the diaper - I think in many situations, it's still better to let it "air out" than to have your kid soaking in their own ... (you get the picture) for extended periods of time. A friend in Shanghai's two year old daughter got a very serious infection as a result of this very problem. Glad to see your little boy was easy to toilet train and relatively rash free - but I'm afraid lots of parents, particularly those of little girls don't get off so easily.

On the latter note, I definitely agree - but then again, we're living in a place where not so long ago in the big city, it was perfectly acceptable for two guys to have a chat and a smoke while squatting side by side in a public restroom.

Maybe the no diaper thing will disappear over time, as the chatting in the toilet thing has diminished over time (mainly because there aren't so many public restrooms anymore), but judging from the prevalence of this and other distinctly Chinese child rearing practices, it seems a while yet.

Jerry Chan, Editorial Director


Re: In Defense of the Diaperless

In the West it's called EC for Elimination Communication. There are Diaper-Free baby books, Diaper Free mentors (there's one in Shanghai) and it's the latest wave of natural and organic parenting.

I did half and half diaper free with my baby #2 and it was great. He potty trained a little sooner, and I did like half the diaper laundry. Win win!

Liora

Liora Pearlman
Moderator, Beiing Organic Consumers' Association (BOCA)
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/beijing_organic_consumers


Re: In Defense of the Diaperless

Thanks for that info Liora - if you have any additional info about any organizations in Beijing that might have this kind of training - do let us know. Much obliged!

- Jerry

Jerry Chan, Editorial Director


Re: In Defense of the Diaperless

Hi Jerry,

Here is a link to an article I co-authored for Chinese Children Charities / Chinese Children Adoption International:

http://www.chinesechildren.org/Newsletter%5CProfessional%20Corner/PC_03_...

It addresses Western parents who adopt from China, lets them know that their baby has had some toilet training and offers advice on how to continue. If parents ignore what the child has learned, it can lead to crying, tantrums, etc. so it's best to continue offering the potty or toilet.

I use the terms "infant pottying" and "infant potty training." There are many others too, as different mothers have come across this topic over the years. I wrote the first book on the topic back in 1991.

Here are some more sites and resources for interested readers:

http://www.white-boucke.com/IPTstuff.html
This page includes info and a buy button for the book "Infant Potty Training: A Gentle and Primeval Method Adapted to Modern Living" and the DVD "Potty Whispering." Both include photos of kids in split pants in China and of children from many other countries and cultures. They can also be found on Amazon.com

http://www.TimL.com/ipt
This page gives a fairly detailed account of the infant potty training fundamentals and is translated into many languages including Mandarin Chinese. Here is the direct link to the Mandarin translation http://www.white-boucke.com/reviews/ipmandarin.html

http://www.pottywhisperer.com
This Potty Whisperer site presents a short but very helpful intro to the topic, with the media and skeptics in mind.

http://aitt.evassist.it
This is the home of the International Board for the Study, Research and Promotion of Assisted Infant Toilet Training. It includes a list of medical journal articles, supportive pediatricians and more info that debunks the maturational readiness theories that claim that kids do not have any elimination control before they are about 2 years old.


Re: In Defense of the Diaperless

Thanks for all the info Laurie!

Jerry Chan, Editorial Director


Re: In Defense of the Diaperless

Very nice to see an expat publication promoting understanding/compassion/admiration for this culture that surrounds us rather than the usual presumed superiority, left over from the colonial era.